Still here and not in labour – 39 weeks 5 days

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So it turns out I’m not part of the 24% club. That’s the 24% of women who go into labour 48 hours after  sweep. *sigh*

(I’m about to talk about my mucus plug so if that irks you skip the next paragraph).

I did however have that bloody show on Thursday night and continued to lose a lot of pink tinged mucus for the next almost 24 hours. And when I saw a lot I mean soooooooo much.

I have all but given up on an impending labour now but i am feeling a bit hormonal and miserable about it today so not all that hopeful. I have slept really well the last 2 night post sweep which has been a nice change but today I just still feel so tired. Thankfully Eric has taken Monkey out for the day to give me a break and in about 20 mins I am going to have another massage during which I may just nap on the table. Then the plan is to come home and nap some more. I am just SO freaking tired.

We decided to invoke our inner hippy this morning and during a family cuddle in bed we said a little prayer to baby girl and invited her to come join our family. We told her we have all her things all ready and waiting for her and that we are so excited to meet her. Monkey was so cute and after every line I said he repeated it. It was rather adorable.

I have had some really lovely reassuring texts from my doula this morning which was great but for some reason they also ended up with me in tears. Probably because I am a tired hormonal mess. As I was bawling my eyes out I begged baby girl to come earth side. I just need to meet her and see that she is ok now. Scans and movement and everything else just isn’t cutting it for me. I need to hold her in my arms and kiss her little face and see that she is healthy and well.

I am also starting to becoming really apprehensive about the fact that she is a big baby. How much bigger is she going to get if she bakes for another week or so? I also really don’t want to have my baby on 7 June which will be exactly 41 weeks according to the Dr’s dates and I’m worried if I induce the day before that it might slip into that day and all other stupid control freak things that I need to stop thinking about.

Oh and my friend’s sister who is about 10 days behind me lost her plug yesterday and I’m convinced she is going to have her damn baby before me and I am being all stupid and envious about that. Pffffft.

Anyway, I think I really only have moaning left in me so might leave it there. It’s about time to leave for that restorative massage/nap anyhow.

 

52 thoughts on “Still here and not in labour – 39 weeks 5 days”

  1. Oh Momma. I remember feeling all the things you are feeling.
    All I can say is breathe. Sleep. Eat. Be patient. She’ll be here in a few days. Also, a big baby can actually be helpful. At 9 pounds, Buddy mostly pushed himself out and saved me some tearing…..and the head circumference of a 7 pound baby versus a 10 pound baby is not all THAT much. It’s just mostly fatter.
    Can’t wait to read about your labour and you newest little love. You’ll do great. Let all that need for control go as best you can and just live it. You’ll do amazing!
    xo

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    • Thx chick. That is an awesome pep talk! And on that note I am going for my nap with it fresh in my mind. Hopefully it will help me wake with a fresh perspective 🙂 X

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  3. OMG! I haven’t or blogged or been here for such a long time (life has been crazy-town busy, just unbelievable – separation, move, now 3 jobs and studying. But good stuff, too!) that I didn’t know you were finally preggers! WELL DONE grrrl, I’m really so happy for you. The final stretch is never easy, but you have been here before, you know the score, you can do it! Sending you a ton of love and wishing you a respected and fulfilling birth. HUGS!

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    • Holy moly blast from the past!!!!! How ARE you???? Sounds like there has been a lot of change and some sadness. Hope you are ok with all that. You were already busy before so I can only imagine what it must be like now. So lovely to hear from you xxx

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  5. When you nap maybe leave a light on – see if that attracts her out? Or leave some chocolate buttons, or a mince pie and a glass of sherry – like for Father Christmas? Take care you. I’m so sorry it’s taking forever. xx

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  7. Aw, I know how you feel, the waiting at the end – especially when you thought baby would be early – is excruciating! But she’s obviously not quite “cooked” yet, and you are doing exactly what I would suggest.. Pampering and rest! Fingers crossed she will be here soon.

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  8. I’m sorry. I know this is tough. I do think it will be soon, though. I don’t think you will get all the way to 41 weeks. Why don’t you want to have you baby on June 7? I wonder if second babies are just lazier and more content inside. They SAY second babies come earlier, but that hasn’t been the case so much with my friends. I like to think about it like this: your baby spent so long trying to come to you that she’s soaking up a few extra minutes of alone time with you. I know that doesn’t help much, though, because you just want her safely on the outside! Hang in there. ❤️❤️❤️

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    • Oh the 7 June thing! It is the birthday of an ex boyfriend AND the only chick friend I have ever fallen out with. I don’t really do falling out with friends so that experience has always stung. I don’t really need my baby to share her birthday. And yes, I just want her safely in my arms now 🙂 Thx hon x

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  9. Oh man – this is the toughest time!!!! I was going stir crazy with Lucas at this point. I was crying and worrying and freaking out so much. I am a total control freak, so it’s impossible to relax and be one of those “it’ll happen when it happens” mamas. Relaxation is just about the best thing, so have a massage every day! I can’t recommend reflexology highly enough, so you could look into that (I only had it with baby F and she was a week earlier than the other two). And I totally get the big baby fear. I was obsessed with this the last time. Wish I could pop over and have a chat and take your mind of it (or just listen to you get it all off your chest!). I think of you every day. Once it starts it’ll be a force of nature (literally), so enjoy all that rest as it’ll help shore up your reserves. BIG hugs and a whisper in baby girl’s ear to come on down!!! xxxxx

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    • I think one of the hardest things right now is that I am losing faith in my body to do this. I should really do me some good birth prep meditation, get the head right. My massage lady did some reflexology on my ankles but maybe I will try and find someone who specialises if we are still here in a couple of days 🙂 Wish you could pop in for a chat too!!! Ah it would be so good. One day we shall have tea! Xx

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      • I know just what you mean. I totally lost it with baby F (crying and begging for a C section wasn’t my proudest moment). And I had the same with Lucas – I felt that the waiting meant my body didn’t know what to do. Definitely do some birth meditations – this is the ideal time for them and it will help subconsciously convince you that you can do this. It’s in your DNA – you are the descendent of millions of women who all gave birth before you. Your body knows what to do, even if your mind and its modern thoughts are unsure and afraid. Nature will take its course and it will do so at exactly the right time for you and your baby. Just remember it’s literally encoded in your genes to do this – just as it will be in your daughters genes. Plug in the headphones and listen over and over. You are amazing, your body has done everything right for nine months, you CAN do this!! (End of pep talk!) xxxxx

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        • Love the pep talk! It helped me so much. I logged off here and put on some birth prep meditation immediately following reading it. I fell asleep listening to it for over an hour. I feel so much better today. More relaxed. I also went back to read this post on due dates and induction on this page “Evidence Based Birth” which I LOVE. And basically it says that according to research the best EDD is between 40+3 adn 40+5. That puts me at due by next Sunday. Resetting that date has really set my mind at ease. It is amazing something so arbitrary can really impact us. We get really set on it even if we don’t mean to. Thx hon. This comment really helped xx

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          • Ahhh good!! I’m so glad you’re feeling more relaxed. And yes – I remember reading about how much better it was for babies to stay in even just a few more days. Lifelong positive impact on health and cognitive ability, so it’s all good. Keep it up!! Each day is a day closer xxxxx

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  11. Every day I say to myself “Hopefully today is the day I will log on and Em will have had that baby!” I’m sorry she’s dragging her feet to get here. Try to relax a bit and get some rest while you can. Maybe your body knows it’s about time and it’s telling you to get some sleep in!! Fingers crossed for you that she comes in the next couple days!! Hang in there!

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    • haha every night I got to bed thinking “maybe tonight is the night I will wake in full on labour” and then every morning I wake up and go “nope”. lol Oh well. She will come when she is ready and maybe I just need to trust in the process. *sigh* If she wasn’t measuring so big I wouldn’t be so worried!

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  13. Let it all hang out. And maybe then she’ll fall out. 🙂
    Well, it can’t be much longer now, one way or another!
    Let her labor down, labor down (that’s what we say when we want that baby to descend as much naturally before we start intervening with this or that, always makes for a smoother delivery if that can happen…so picture her “laboring down.” Anxiety always seems to hinder that laboring down. So pick your happy place and go there mentally. 🙂 ) And I know it’s coming soon, so get ready to roll with the punches! She’s got this!

    Terri

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    • I can feel her getting lower every day so I think she is coming. We are going out to the wildlife sanctuary today. I’m going to attempt to walk her down. They have a little train that goes around the place too if I get tired so won’t overdo it! Thx hon x

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  14. I really thought your next post would be the one. I’m impatient and it’s not even my baby. It does sound like you are doing everything you can given the situation. I am sure she is worth the wait.
    Thinking of you ❤️❤️❤️

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    • The coming early thing hasn’t bothered me so much, I don’t mind waiting except that she is measuring big. It is kinda freaking me. Well was. I feel much better about it all today. Having the sweep did my head in the most as it set off cramping and the show so I felt like labour symptoms were right there but it didn’t turn into anything real. That was hard! But anyway, much better today. 🙂 xx

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  19. Sending you lots of love Em. Hope little gal makes an appearance soon and safely for you. Will be checking so often for some awesome news!!! Eeep xox

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  21. So I was thinking it has been a couple of days and maybe bubs has showed her face, but looking at your replies to comments it seems as though she is still holding in there. Maybe she knows it is cold out and is holding in there as long as she can 🙂 Thinking of you and sending you easy labour wishes!!!

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  22. Waaaaaah, I get massages and naps. kidding- J didn’t want to come out either. It’s awful. They spent 48 hours trying to induce before it was given up for surgery. My womb must have been SUPER comfortable. Nothing helps at the end, does it? Never comfortable, never happy… I remember crying one morning because the people at Rita’s weren’t there to open the store yet and I wanted juicy pear ice.
    My mom had it way worse than I did, though. I was 3 weeks late when I was born, and that was back when nobody cared how long you went because all obgyn’s were men. It was still healthy to smoke while pregnant back then, and I’m pretty sure c-section WAS induction.

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