30 days of Optimum Health

Last night when I was wide awake between the hours of 3:30am and 5am I composed an entire post in my head on how young children and infertility are the reason for sexless marriages as opposed to marriage itself. Poor marriage gets a bad rap when it is really the adorable little offspring (or lack thereof!) that is ruining it all. You see, at some point I loved sex and I’m not really sure where that person has gone now.

Anyway as fascinating as that post is it is still in my head. Instead we are going to talk about my challenge for the next 30 days as who doesn’t love a challenge.

I was initially going to do 90 days but I don’t know, I struggle to stick to things when the end seems so far away. So I figure I will do 30 days and then I can do it again for another 30 days and again for another 30 days…and you get the picture.

Here’s my challenge, my pledge:

For the next 30 days (starting tomorrow 23 February, ending 24 March) I will

1. Be physical – this just means do some sort of activity for a minimum of 30 minutes every day. This can be gym, yoga, pilates,running, jumping on the trampoline with my main man, walking, WHATEVER. Just something physical, min 30 mins.

2. Do something for my mind – this is essentially meditation but it doesn’t have to be the sit down and OM kind. If I do yoga then this counts for mind AND body (nice incentive there). It also counts if I go to acupuncture or have a massage provided I am doing the right things in my head when I’m lying there.

3. Get some sun on my ovaries – Sun has more healing properties than we really understand and one thing I was doing regularly when I conceived the first time was having 40 mins per day in the sun. Eric calls it sun time and is mad about it. Bonus is I can double up on the meditation. Or I can listen to a nice audio book. Or do my hypnosis. Whatever.

4. Eat healthily – No sugar. No more than 1 coffee per day. Predominately alkalising diet (alcohol, dairy and gluten are not alkalising). It is lots of fresh fruit and veg, herbs, spices and chicken.

So that’s the plan stan. To create a happy healthier me who perhaps is able to stay awake for sex? Honestly while we are TTC I doubt sex is going to be that appealing. Damn I just want to have sex without thinking about conceiving. The conception goal is a freaking killjoy.

We are not going to cycle again next month. We were and we weren’t and we were and we weren’t. In the end I decided I wasn’t healthy enough and decided to wait. It blows as it means we will collect in April and then won’t be able to transfer in May as we are in Canada for a wedding…so it means a June transfer but whatever. I don’t see a point in rushing in this month if I’m not healthy enough and I really just feel I am not. I have not been prepping. I kind of fell off the wagon a bit.

I have ditched acupuncture at the moment. It is not a permanent decision but I just had to have some time where I didn’t have appointments interfering with my life and ability to do some work and focus on things for me. I have also dialed back a bit on work in an effort to be less stressed about needing to do things.

So that’s the update from this end. Congrats everyone on your BFPs this month. I am declaring it Fertile February!

Anyway, this all starts tomorrow so today I am going to eat KFC for lunch. Bite me.


21 thoughts on “30 days of Optimum Health

  1. Good luck! I have a friend on FB, and about five of her friend and I all check I once or twice a day with each other on what we’ve done. Some months we all have a challenge, like arm or leg exercises, and then we do our regular exercise on top of that. Yoga, a run, work out dvd, rock climbing, etc. it’s nice to have the group support and a place to be held accountable! Enjoy your 30 days! 🙂

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  2. Hahaha I love the end of this post!! I’m proud of you for working on getting healthier before starting on another cycle. Good luck with sticking to it! I have trouble with that part of things too. Let us know how it’s going!

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  3. So glad to hear from you – I’ve been wondering how you’ve been. I think 30 days sounds brilliant. As you know, I tried for 90 and it sucks because it is too long. It goes on and on and on and I just couldn’t do it. Too much. This time around I’ve managed to stay on the straight and narrow because it is about 6 weeks from juice fast to “target ovulation”. Ha. Then, afterwards, we’ll do it again to hold out for an IVF cycle. So I think approaching it in 30 day segments is a great idea – I wish I’d thought of that and done it two years ago!! I think your plan sounds great, and it’s pretty much what I’m finally doing – trying to move more, trying to keep my head clear, and trying to avoid inflammatory/controversial foods. I WISH I could get some more sun here…
    I already know I’m going to say f*ck it and stop all this after a shot at IVF. I don’t want to live like this any more. We’re actually talking about getting a big puppy dog instead (seriously!). I really am so tired of it all. And it’s messing with my head – last night I dreamt that the husband ran off with the evil-ex-friend I posted about a while ago, and he got her pregnant and she had TWINS and decided to call one of them the same name as my son. OMG – talk about messed up. I woke in the night and I was so hacked off about it. Enough is enough is enough.
    It’s rubbish you have to wait so long – and I HATE skipping a cycle – but like you I just felt last month I wasn’t healthy enough and I didn’t want to encourage another loss.
    Enjoy your KFC (*food envy*), and have a great month – in some ways it is worth it for how good you feel, even if nothing else, That’s what I keep telling myself. xxxx

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    • That is so true Rose, the how good you will feel bit. I know that I am going to be feeling great just a few days in so I just need to hang in there for that. First stop this morning is a swimming lesson with my boy, then my new 1.5 hour yoga class at the new gym I’ve joined and then a little writing work this afternoon. All things I enjoy.

      What an awful awful dream for you!!! So shit! What do our minds do to us sometimes?!?!?! I hope you are still feeling great. I had a chat to friend of ours the other day. I knew she’d done IVF but wasn’t sure about the timeframe. She did 8 full cycles. 8 egg collections. Far out. She was young, in her 30s. They tried everything – they did a year taking awful herbs and natural therapies and being as clean as possible. The only thing she said worked was just time AND stopping her stressful job and going to work in the bridal registry of a dept store. She said it greatly reduced her stress. She also ended up with a clinic who only did transfers on day 3 and she got her baby that way but back then they weren’t very good at thawing and you often lost embryos at the thaw stage. Ugh it’s so hard and tedious but we can do it Rose, We can!!! xx

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      • Oh my goodness – she must have been through unimaginable stress and strain. 8 full cycles?! I am in awe of some people’s commitment and the strength they have to keep going. How did she hold on through all of that? Absolutely amazing. I’m so glad she got there in the end 🙂 Success stories like that make you think it IS all worth it in the end.


  4. This is a lovely post. Your honesty is refreshing. many things you said rung true for me too. I wish you all the best. 30 mins exercise a day sounds like a perfect starting point to me. x


  5. Somehow I missed this post! Your challenge sounds great! I keep saying I’m going to do something similar, but when it comes down to it, I’m just so tired of doing things for my fertility that I just can’t muster up the energy. It sounds like you are doing it for your overall health, and not just fertility, so I bet you’ll be able to stick to it better that way. I’ve been eating mostly gluten and dairy free for about a year now, and that’s been great. But I cannot, no matter how hard I try, kick the sugar. I can’t seem to do it. I haven’t been able to fully kick alcohol either. I try to keep it to one glass of wine a week. But honestly, I’m starting to feel like I’m depriving myself and I wonder if all of my abstaining is even doing anything? I just want to get effing drunk and eat cupcakes! OMG, so I’m being a Debbie Downer here, jeez. I know you said that you don’t feel great yet, but I hope by the end of 30 days you feel fabulous!


    • Oh hon I am SO hearing this. I did a pregnancy test the other day as I was almost due and sick of waiting (we always try in a natural cycle) and when I saw the snowy white negative I just sighed and said to Eric “I am so sick of negative pregnancy tests. I am so sick of trying to be pregnant”. I am not sticking tot his challenge very well already despite me putting it out there. I just wasn’t inspired enough at the beginning. I wanted to want it but didn’t want it bad enough if you know what I mean. Anyway, hopefully I’ll get out of my funk soon and feel inspired to do this properly.


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