IVF #1 – the morning after transfer

Meet Rocky. Rocky is a Day 3 embryo with 5 cells. If you ask Dr Google about this he will tell you that 5 cells is considered to be slow developing for day 3 but my clinic seemed fine with it. 

Rocky has a bit more fragmentation than they would like but is not so bad that further development is impossible so we are pretty much just hoping this little embryo lives up to its name and is a fighter.

I am doing my best to relax but I’ve been up since 4am this morning as when I went to the bathroom there was one pink spot, like a show or something, on my liner and I have to admit it has occurred to me that perhaps Rocky has dislodged. There is no way to know of course. I can only wait. Ah the cruelness of time. Sometimes it seems to be speeding on by too quickly and then times like these it seems to be at a crawl.

The transfer itself went pretty well. It was actually less painful than the 2 IUIs I’ve had so that’s something. Normally they show you on the screen the embryo pinging out into your uterus (the embryo itself is too small to see but it is followed by an air bubble apparently and you can see that) but my ovaries were still so swollen they were obscuring the view somewhat. So no TV screen viewing for us.

I’ve had some more tummy pain since my egg retrieval (it calmed and then flared again) but the Dr doesn’t seem to be concerned. He checked it while I was there for transfer and it isn’t swollen in a bad way so it’s all good. The nurses made a note to call and check on me on Sunday so that’s nice to have that follow up.

I found the actual transfer itself really really emotional. I was emotional all morning leading up to it and super emotional laying there for the transfer. Eric was really fabulous. He was so excited really and very positive. He kept telling everyone we met during the process how I’d named the embryo Rocky because he loved it so much. It was pretty cute actually. He held my hand the whole time and stroked my arm a bit. It was very comforting and just what I needed.

Since our little glitch a couple of weeks ago he has been very supportive for this whole process. He had to get back to work after the transfer and also to pick up our little monkey (he has taken him for the weekend so I can rest) and didn’t want me to drive home so he booked me a private car to drive me the half hour home. I thought it was silly at the time (and that perhaps $100 could be better spent) but I was so glad for it when it was time to go home yesterday. It was so nice to just sit back in the comfort of the leather seats and relax rather than have to stress about the Friday afternoon highway traffic. And by getting back to work a bit earlier he managed make $500 so the car paid for itself.

So at the end of it all who knows what the outcome will be. Rocky isn’t an A+ embryo but from reading the forums I’ve learned that many A+ embryos don’t make it and sometimes C grade embryos do. We just have to cross our fingers and hope that we are one of the lucky ones.

Thank you to everyone for your support. It has meant so much.

~Ems~

PS Preg test isn’t until 7 Nov so we have a full 2WW.

PPS The Dr seems to think we just got lucky conceiving our first born. He doesn’t think this is a new thing for us, just that every now and then one makes it and our son was the one.  Apparently the eggs that didn’t fertilise didn’t even have the sperm binding to them (normally a number of sperm may bind to one egg and then they fight it out until one wiggles in – so I wasn’t even getting any binding on my unfertilisted eggs). It was like the sperm didn’t like them. So I’m off to do some research on that.